self-confidence and self criticism 


it is this inner critic who destroys self-confidence and self-esteem. 
If you have low self-esteem, however, 
you apply too many critical judgments to yourself. 
They get out of control and take on a life of their own. 

self-critical "truths" or "facts" just pop into our minds. 
That’s a key feature of the pathological critic: 
No matter how outrageous its statements are, 
they seem true. You believe them without question. 

disapproval is a life and death matter, 
since they are the sole source of 
physical and emotional nourishment. 
You retain conscious and unconscious memories ,
they are the unavoidable scars that 
growing up inflicts on everyone’s self-esteem.  

When your pathological critic starts pointing out 
how you’ve made a mess, fallen short of a goal,
 or made a stupid mistake, it sounds perfectly believable
 because it harks back to past memories of shame, and fear. 




To succeed in life the basic life skills are
cognitive skills, self-management skills, and interpersonal skills.

Research has shown that life skills are keys to success in 
academic, career, relationship, and personal areas.
Intimacy and assertive conflict resolution skills are important because

 for healthy, happy and harmonious relationships, 

 how we deal with problems is more important than how we resolve them. 

 So, soften and be more accepting for the price we pay for being unable to 

 manage our feelings, behaviors and/or communications with others is way to high! 


 "If you are patient in one moment of anger, 

  you will escape a hundred days of sorrow."

COGNITIVE: 

Learning and study skills
Critical-thinking and logic
Research and methodology
Analysis
Synthesis
Creative thinking
Mathematics and quantitative thinking
Reading and comprehension
Writing and communication skills
Computer skills
Disciplines (Science, history, psychology,
health,business, literature, music, art,
philosophy, etc.)


SELF-MANAGEMENT:

Decision-making
Self-Confidence
Life and career planning
Time-management
Emotional coping skills
Self-development
Self-motivation, achievement motivation,
and work habits
Changing habits
Managing money


 INTERPERSONAL:

 Meeting people and
talking to strangers
Empathetic listening skil
Self-disclosure of feelings
& intimate information
Other intimacy skills
Conflict resolution skills
Persuasion
Managing others
Helping and teaching skills
Public speaking skills
Job search and interviewing

moral intelligence create moral identity and are the foundation for 
enhancing critical character traits and values such as 
honesty, integrity, tolerance, respect, kindness, and fairness (and others).
The five critical keys that maximize  success are 
security, selfhood, affiliation, mission and competence 
which create foundations for personal success thought
Positive Self-Esteem, Communicating, Cultivating Strengths, 
interpersonal, Problem-Solving. Goal-Setting, Perseverance, and Caring.