On Being a Husband

All biblical quotes are taken from the New International Version of the bible

I dedicate this page to my wife Catherine without whom I would have no page to ponder. I love you Cat with all my heart.

funny Cat alluring Cat

I also wish to give special thanks to the following:

To my Dad and Mom, who have recently celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary after having lovingly raised six children. Their example is an inspiration to me.

To the Ministry of Focus on the Family and the outreach of Dr. James Dobson for standing firm for the Institutions of Marriage and Family amidst the cocophony of voices that would destroy this most vital of unions.

To the Ministry of Family Life Today with Dennis Rainey, from whom I continue to gain valuable insight into who I am as a man, a husband, and a father.

Genesis Chapter 2:24-25

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.

Here you will notice a pattern:

First: There is a choice to be made. To leave the old way of life and to begin a new way. In modern terms we could think of it this way:

Stay a swinging single and play the wide range of options, at the expense of developing a deeper relationship with any one.
Or Leave and Cleave to a single other, foresaking the field with its options for that deeper relationship we all need. Even Adam found this out in the cool of the garden, where he walked with God himself: Genesis 2:20b - But for Adam no suitable helper was found.

Second: There is the notion of commitment, the two become one before God. Thus a covenental relationship is begun between a man, a woman, and God.

Third: Within this new relationship there is a physical as well as emotional intimacy that is right and good.

Finding the right woman to spend the rest of my life with is a Gift from God. Seeking her highest good is the essence of my life. It is my deepest desire to put her in her Rightful Place, on a Pedestal of Honour.

I will be the first to admit that I cannot do this perfectly. Nobody can. The joy is not so much in achieving the goal, as in the process of day by day learning a new way to honour and love her.

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