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Forgiving Yourself for your Parenting Mistakes - Tap Away Parental Guilt

Many of us parents blame ourselves for issues that manifest in our children. For some reason it is our fault that our child has autism, learning disabilities, weight issues, eating disorders, drug addiction, or worse.  And maybe in some way, we are to blame for these failures in our child.  I have yet to meet a parent, however, who intentionally inflicted any of these disorders upon his or her child.  Any parents I have met have only wished the best for their children, and they have all done their best with them, even if things don’t always turn out well.
As parents we are all guilty at times of bad behaviour- we lose our tempers, we say hurtful things, we over re-act  or we under-react to issues that come up.  We may blame ourselves for getting our child immunized too soon, not breastfeeding, not feeding them the most nutritious diet available, not setting a good example, not being able to provide for them as well as we had hoped, or giving them too much.  Yes, we have a lot of things to feel guilty about if we take the time to think about it.  Take a minute now and write down  5 or 6 things you did wrong with your kids.
  1.  __________________________________
  2.  __________________________________
  3.  __________________________________
  4.  __________________________________
  5.  __________________________________
  6.  __________________________________

A list of your guilty behavior might look something like this:

1) I dropped Michael on his head as a baby.
2) I smoked when I/my wife was pregnant.
3) It’s my fault he has/is  _________________.
4) I let the doctor talk me/my wife into taking anti-nausea medication while I/she was pregnant.
5) I lost my temper too many times to count.
6) I forgot his birthday when he was 12.

Now, take each of your statements and drop them into this pattern:
Even though _________________________________ I accept myself and I forgive myself. I was doing the best I could do.
Say each sentence aloud three times while tapping your karate chop point, the fleshy area by your little finger on the side of your palm.  Say the sentences even if you don’t believe them.  

Modified Tapping Sequence

Once you have done this, go through this modified tapping sequence until each of the statements you have written down have less charge to them. Tap the following points: 1)top of the head, 2)between eyebrows,3) side of the eye, 4)under the eye-on the eye bone, just below the pupil, 5)under the nose, 6) under the lips, 7)at the indent below the color bone, where the knot of a loosely knotted tie might be, and 8) under the arms-in the area of a woman’s bra strap. Lightly and quickly tap each of these points 5-12 times, running through the whole sequence a few times.  How does that feel now? Some people will report feeling a bit lighter or more relaxed.
If your list is longer keep working at it. Once you forgive yourself for your mistakes, you will start to find it easier to forgive other people.

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EFT for Needles and Blood Tests

If you have anxiety around needles and blood tests, try the following simple procedures based on a combination of Chinese acupressure points and modern psychology, Emotional Freedom Technique.

 Here are some EFT statements to use while tapping the “karate chop” area on the side of your hand. Say each statement 3 times and then do a round of EFT or two for the ones that still resonate with you. If you have a different issue when it comes to needles, substitute your own issue.

Even though I feel foolish for having this problem, I humbly accept myself.

Even though I feel like fainting at the sight of my own blood, I accept myself.

Even though I’m feeling nauseous (or faint , or queasy) at the thought of having a needle in me or having my blood come out, I accept myself and I know that I have been doing the best that I can under the circumstances.

Even though I know that I should not be afraid, and yet I have some fear of needles and of having my blood taken, I accept myself.

Even though others might think less of me for this fear of needles , I accept myself and I forgive them and I also forgive myself- we are all doing the best we can, given who we are.

Even though I sometimes faint at the sight of blood, I accept myself.

Even though I feel like I should not have this irrational fear, I accept myself.

Even though I may never get completely over this problem, I accept myself and I forgive myself or anyone else for any part we/they have played in my having this problem.

Even though the first time this happened was a disaster, I accept myself  and I forgive anyone involved. We were all doing our best.

Even though I might subconsciously enjoy all the attention I get when I go for blood tests and faint, I accept myself and forgive myself, I am really just doing the best I can.

Do this for any other aspects that come up:

Even though that needle looks very scary , I accept myself and I forgive the nurse; she is doing her best  to do her job.

Even though ____________________________________________ I accept myself and I’m doing my best.

Do a few rounds of EFT as described in below or online at www.emofree.ca    and you will be ready to donate blood.

Tapping Points –acupressure points associated with Chinese Medicine

 

1.    top of the head
2.    inner eyebrow area
3.    outer eye area

 

4.   under eye
5.   under nose
6.   under lips

 

7.   under collarbone
8.   under arms

copyright Mildred Thill, EFT Practitioner  in Edmonton, Alberta 780-432-3605.  Feel free to copy this article and pass it on with the link to this web site included.

Stress Related Acne : A Self Help Sheet

If you have acne or other skin condition that seems overwhelming to you, perhaps EFT can help provide some relief.  The longer you have had this problem the more difficult it may be to completely release it, but persistence pays. If your acne gets worse under stress, then EFT may be just the thing for you.

Start with addressing those subconcious beliefs that block healing, Psychological Reversals

Start with removing some psychological reversals- negative self-limiting beliefs- that are typical of acne sufferers.  Yours may not be exactly the same, but you are welcome to change the words to fit your own circumstances.

Tapping on the side of your hand just below your pinkie, say each of the following statements  three  to six  times:

Even though I have this acne condition, I accept myself. (You can use your own words for the italicised part).

Even though I feel ugly, embarrassed, ashamed,_________________  (any other emotions that come to mind ), I accept myself.

Even if I never get over this acne condition, I accept myself.

Try these phrases if they make sense to you or fit with your situation

Even though I’ve tried everything to get rid of this skin condition, I accept myself.

Even if I haven’t tried everything yet, I accept myself.

Even if I don’t really want to completely get over my acne, I accept myself.

Even if I have a secret reason for keeping this skin condition I accept myself.

Even if it’s not safe for me to be completely free of acne, I accept myself.

Even if other people don’t deserve for me to get over my acne, I accept myself.

Even though I use my acne as an excuse to __ not do something __________________ or as a reason ­­­­____ to do something  else_________________, I accept myself ( you fill in the blanks here).

If I could erase one person or event from my past that would be ______________________________ because____________________________________________________________________________

Key question to get at the root cause of acne

This question may provide some clue as to what is behind your acne.   If it is an event that happened to you, make a list of all the upsetting aspects, or pieces of this event and tap through each piece, starting at the beginning of the event and for each aspect, tapping 1) the top of the head, 2) the inner eyebrow area, 3) the outer eye area, 4) under the eye, 5)under the nose, 6)under the lips, 7)under the collarbone -where the knot of a tie might be-and 8)under the arms in the area of a woman’s  bra strap might be.

Typically, you will find that the original issue might disappear from your radar, but other issues present themselves.  Work on each of these in turn.  You may have to make a long list and go through it over time, but at some point, you will notice improvement in your skin condition.  If you hear yourself blaming anyone, including yourself for your having acne, then this too is an issue to do a reversal statement on.”Even though it is __________ fault that I have acne, I accept myself and I forgive _______.

Shoulds, musts and ought to's

If you find yourself mentally using should statements or must statements, these are also important clues to incorporate in your reversal statements.

Even though I should eat healthier, or Even though I should take better care of my skin, or even though I should do __________________________, I accept myself.

What are your fears surrounding your acne?______________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________

Even though I will never get a date, get married, or have a normal life, I accept myself. Even though no one will talk to me, be my friend or date me as long as I look like this, I accept myself. (You know what those fears are for you - use your own fears here.)

Anger may be key to your acne

Anger is a common underlying emotion for acne sufferers.   If you were angry at anyone or anything, who, or what, would it be?

Even though I am angry at _______________, and ___________________ and ____________________ for  ________________________________________________________________, I accept myself and I forgive anyone involved in the situation.  Even though my anger only hurts me, and it has no physical effect on anyone else, I accept myself.  Even though my anger shows up in my body in a way I don’t want, I accept myself.(3 times)

You may have a long list of people  you are angry at, so write this list down and get to work. Describe each incident in a few words and assign a number  from 1-10 beside it. Start tapping through the rounds as listed above for each one.  Bring each down to 0 if possible, before moving on to the next.  If you find that you are not making progress on a particular issue, then this is a sign of psychological reversal.  Think of some “even though” statements to work through while tapping the karate chop spot.

If you need more help with this issue, please call me, Mildred Thill at 780-.-432-.-3605 or email me at braingym@telus.net to make an appointment.



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