Like Father, Like Son
- an article for the June 2001 Deep Cove Crier
While celebrating Motherís Day a month ago, I came across a pillow with an embroidered message saying: ĎMirror, mirror on the wall, Iíve become my mother after all." As we now celebrate Fatherís Day on Sunday June 17th, many of us as men realize that weíve Ďbecome our father after allí. For many of us, that discovery is a much more pleasant realization than it might have been 20 or 30 years ago.
As a sixteen-year old, I was moving away from my desire to be just like my dad. For the previous ten years (grade 3-10), I was convinced that I would become an electrical engineer, just like my father. After taking several electronics courses at High School however, I came to the painful realization that electrical engineering was not to be my chosen path. This left me with a challenging career crisis: just who and what was I called to be? I remember fearing that I might choose the wrong career and end up 20 years later bored and trapped in a dead-end job.
In our family, we loved to surprise our parents, and so Ed the potential engineer became Ed the Social Worker, and my younger sister the potential artist and basket-weaver became a sheep-genetics scientist instead.
I give my father credit that whatever career choices I embarked upon, he was always supportive. It is only years later looking back that I see how much my father was rooting for me as I wandered my way through eight years of life at University. My fatherís example has taught me regarding my 3 sons that I can encourage them and root for them, but I canít live their life for them. They too have to go through the painful choices of mapping out their unknown future career and lifestyle choices. With all my sons between age thirteen to twenty, it brings back for me so many memories of my own teenage struggles for identity and success. I remember how convinced I was that I was very different than my father, and would certainly never become like him.
So how have I become Ďlike Father, like Soní? In a way that I never expected, I became like my father in his interest in writing and journalism. I have written 150 articles http://www3.telus.net/st_simons/crier.htm for the Deep Cove Crier for over 12 years. Similarly my father has been a writer and then the editor of the Telecom Advisor http://www.tmcadvisor.com/ for 14 years. The Telecom Advisor is a telecommunications magazine distributed to all large businesses in Western Canada.
Why is it that both my father and I have written over 150 articles each over the last 12-14 years? Could it be Ďlike father, like son?í Both my father and I have written for numerous magazines and newspapers over the years. Is it in the blood? Granted, my topics of writing are often different than my fatherís topics about microprocessors and satellite systems. But even so, the basic impulse to communicate is there in a God-given way.
Back in 1971, when I was sixteen years old, none of my classmates would have guessed that I would have ended up as an Anglican priest. That was the farthest thing from my mind. Similarly my fatherís business associates back in 1971 would not have guessed that my father would end up as an Anglican Church Warden (senior lay leader), and editor of ĎThe Rockí, an Anglican newsletter. God is always full of surprises.
My mother, not my father, was the strong church-goer. You can imagine my shock as a 17-year-old when my 48-year-old father decided to become confirmed by Archbishop David Somerville at St. Francis-in-the-Woods, West Vancouver. What a strange thing to do! For better or worse, many teens tend to imitate their fatherís behaviour and distance themselves from their motherís example. Within three months of my fatherís confirmation, I gave my life to Jesus Christ and never looked back. ĎLike Father, like Soní
The most famous person who ever lived on planet earth once said: "If you have seen me, you have seen the Father". Like Father, Like Son. He also said: "Whatever the Father does, the Son does". Like Father, Like Son. Jesus also said: "He who does not honour the Son does not honour the Father who sent him." Like Father, Like Son. My prayer for this Fatherís Day is that all of us may honour both our earthly Fathers and our heavenly Father, revealed in his beautiful Son.
The Reverend Ed Hird, Rector, St. Simonís Anglican Church
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