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Would You Rather Die Than Forgive That ‘Creep’??

"Now, Susie," said her placating mother "your brother Jimmy says he’s sorry that he broke our doll, so I hope you’ll forgive him." "All right," said Susie reluctantly, "but I’d feel more like forgiving him, mother, if I could swat him first!" Forgiveness is something that we all value in out families, and work hard to teach our children. But sometimes the message of forgiveness seems to land on deaf ears. Why is it often so hard for our children to forgive each other? Why is it often so hard for spouses to truly forgive each other?

Genuine forgiveness, rather than mere excusing someone, is the hardest action in the whole world (especially when we’ve been hurt deeply). We are all fairly good at excusing minor annoyances by saying "no problem" or "that’s okay". But when we are hurt unfairly and deeply by someone we love, forgiveness often seems totally impossible. Many divorces occur through a long series of minor and major hurts that never had forgiveness applied to each hurt. If we don’t forgive that initial smaller hurt, then each subsequent hurt accumulates until a root of bitterness grows up in our hearts. At that point, our heart grows cold and numb, and we often doubt whether we ever really loved our spouses. But the real issue is not lack of love. It is lack of forgiveness.

Why is it so hard to forgive?   Click to find out more about the secret of lasting forgiveness….


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