Bereavement
I have extensive experience working with the terminally ill as well as with those who have faced life-threatening illnesses. I have also counselled their families and loved ones throughout the course of the illness and beyond.
Experience has taught me that people who are facing the end of their lives encounter unique challenges. Commonly, terminally ill patients experience denial, bargaining, anger, and depression. They sometimes regret decisions made earlier in their lives. Often, there is a poignant sadness about what might have been if only there had been more time. I believe in providing as much support as individuals need in negotiating the final stages of their lives.
Friends, family members, and loved ones are left to cope with their experiences of loss and sadness. I do not believe time limits can be imposed on how long a person mourns. Suggestions that the person "move on" or "get over it" are insensitive and can be very harmful. Mourning is not something that can be rushed. Attempts to short-circuit the process only postpone it. Mourning and grieving takes as long as it takes.